Patricia Villaceran is a SheByShe guest blogger and writer who has a passion for progressive thinking and social entrepreneurship. She’s currently working as a senior editor and project development head at AED Global. She likes indie music and intricately pieced novels like “A Million Little Pieces” and “Kafka on the Shore.”
Parenting Today: How to Conquer the World With a Child on Your Arm, Ideal Workplace Etiquette
I’m a new mom. My daughter is just more than two months old and I’m just getting a grip on the whole “parenting” matter. But, I was not at all clueless. I’m the first-born in the family and at an early age, I already learned the sense of being responsible for someone.
I also grew up looking at the world as my personal pool of unlimited possibilities. I’m the type of person who yearns for challenging risks that will always push me to the limit. With that in mind, I have a plan to conquer the world.
That could be an absurd idea but just like every one of us who strive to be the best, you know what I mean.
However, having a child changes the playing field. The rules change and the opportunities you thought you should grab go askew. But, that doesn’t mean I do not wish to be the best mother for my child. I just realized that the original “plans” I had in mind had to change in order to adapt to my current situation.
I’m not going to lie. It’s really hard. It is.
You have to balance your professionalism and your warm-hearted-motherly-instincts every day. For one, I am very grateful that I have the opportunity to work at home. However, since my plan is to “conquer the world,” it may not be very far from now when I may need to go to the office and deal with other people outside my home.
If that happens, I want to be able to bring my child to the workplace. This is my ideal scenario. I hope the business industry can accept this type of “etiquette” wherein mothers can bring their children to work: breastfeed them, play with them and even put them to sleep.
Woman are natural “multi-taskers.” Bringing your child to the workplace does not equate a degrading performance. It even boosts our morale, seeing our child/children by our side. This inspires us and reminds us of the reason why we work so hard.
Parents have been struggling about this for ages.
“I really need to work hard for my family. But, if I do that, I sacrifice the time I’m spending with them.”
I do not wish for this to continue. We need to be able to find solace in this type of compromise. We can at least ask our bosses for this kind of scenario when our children are less than one year old.
These little moments when they’re growing up are priceless: the first word they ever say, the first time the child learns to grip on your finger or even those cute little smiles they have for you. These snippets of their experiences are irreplaceable and no matter how hard you work, how much you earn, if you cannot capture these moments, then, what’s the point of doing what you are doing?
A simple idea for bosses who have mothers in the workforce: let them spend time with their child and you will even see improvement from their work.
I mean seriously, when I see my adorable little girl, how can I leave her at home, right?